Hi, I’m Sandra. Welcome to The Happyist. Here, we transform through holistic, eudaimonic happiness. Best part? It’s easy and kind of fun.
One thing that’s good to remind ourselves is that everything is temporary. The good, the bad, the meh.
If you pay attention, stay in appreciation, you’ll notice that, while good comes and goes, a bit of it seems to stick around full-time when we have a nurtured eudaimonic wellbeing. But, if we are stuck in the bad or the meh too long, we need to look at what we’re holding onto and where we might need to feel safer, so we can move onto the good.
Everything is temporary. Except change.
And that’s where we sort of fuck ourselves up.
We want something different, so we do that work/what’s needed — temporarily — then want to go back to our “normal”, which created the sitch we wanted to move on from. Does that make any sense at all? Of course not. But that’s how we humans are built. We are often very nonsensical creatures.
If we want change, we have to stay changed. Period. End of. There’s no negotiating that.
Examples:
Why do diets fail? Because we’re counting the days until we are “allowed” to have ice-cream again. And not just every now and then, but as often as we want. Which does what? Exactly.
Why are budgets hard? Because they keep pointing out what you can’t do or have. It’s so much easier to go back to being fiscally in-the-dark and doing what you want to do. Who needs to own a home or retire anyway?
If we want our lives to be different, we have to be different. And if we want our lives to keep going in that desired direction, we can’t just say, “Welp, I’ve done all the work I need to do here. Life, it’s all on you now. Take it away!”
Nope.
To go full LA on you, it would be like me driving to Palm Springs — which involves the 405, the 10, the 60 then back on the 10 to the 111 — and get into the trafficky part of the 60, get off, pull over, turn off the engine and still expect to arrive in Palm Springs by doing nothing more. It’s just an absurd way of thinking.
Change is not easy, because we see it as punishment. We did something wrong or bad to get us into the position we’re in and now we have to do hard stuff to get out of it. Because, for the most part, when we finally decide to change, we’ve gotten ourselves into some sort of pickle, yes? Not always, but a fair amount. But change is actually wonderful. It’s a sign of personal evolution and self-actualization. Somehow, we still see it as punishment.
Join me (and a bunch of other fabulous women) on Saturday, April 18th at 2PM Pacific as we talk “Death & Taxes” for this month’s Wham! Bam! Thank You! Slam!
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